Three Easy, Powerful Things That Will Transform Your Life.
Here are three easy, simple, yet powerful things that have dramatically increased my happiness, health and wealth and will do the same for you.
1. Focused Gratitude
2. Active Kindness
3. Changing the essential question in your life
As you read this you may think, “How will this affect my wealth or health?” You probably won’t question the positive effect on your happiness.
If they just makes you happier, isn’t that enough?
After all they’re simple and don’t take much time or effort. I do promise though, that if you follow what I say it will help in all three areas and your life will be better.
As with most things, I’m going to keep this as brief and simple as possible.
I’m going to give you a few easy, quick things to do every day, or most days or whenever you remember or find the time. Sound a bit vague and too lax?
It’s your life, the better you do this the better your results.
It should take you less than 5 minutes a day.
Hey, this is too little and too short to make a difference.
That’s a big part of the problem; you see your challenges as huge and believe it will take a massive effort to fix them.
On a side note; I’ll be dispelling one of the most dangerous and counterproductive mantras out there in a future training. That is “Massive effort, effort gets massive results.”
Small, effective, persistent activities will get you there easier, faster and more permanently.
“ You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily.The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.” ~ John C. Maxwell
I underlined “something” because that’s all it takes. Not everything, a bunch of things, a big thing; just something, and to start out, the smaller the better.
It really needs to be done everyday, the earlier the better.
Give this a try, it will work if you do it.
Let’s get down to specifics.
1. Focused Gratitude:
You don’t have to make a list or pick some earth shattering item.
You do, have to be present and conciously be grateful for whatever you choose even if it’s just for a moment.
I do mine first thing when I wake up and as time has passed I now pause for “moments of gratitude” several times a day.
This morning it was that I still had a banana left for my oatmeal. I thought I was out and I forgot to buy some. I like banana in my oatmeal. I had a wonderful moment of gratitude for that banana.
It was a beautiful morning, and while out walking my dog in the woods we saw deer nearby and ducks on the pond. I"m so grateful for the companionship of my dog and the beauty of nature.
I went out for lunch today and as soon as I got back in my car it started to pour down rain. Instead of feeling lucky, I had a concious moment of gratitude that I was in my car before the sky opened up.
Get the picture? Try it.
2. Active Kindness:
Make someones day brighter with a smile or kind word.
I have a habit of making cashiers at the store laugh by saying something silly and self deprecating. I can’t count the times they’ve said to me “I needed that, I’m having a rough day.”
A senior, rubenesque, lady was helping me with a form at a city office recently when my phone rang. I answered and told the caller I’d call them back but that a “pretty girl” was helping me right now. She blushed and said I’d made her day, she hadn’t been called a pretty girl in years.
Find a way to brighten up someones day or be a bit nicer to your child or pet.
One of the most kind and appreciated acts you can do is to actively listen to another person. To be present for what they're communicating without thinking about what you're going to say next.
Making someone feel understood and appreciated is a supreme act of kindness.
Do it conciously.
3. Change the essential question in your life:
I confess this might be a bit harder; I sometimes have several different ones a day.
You don’t have to pick something profound and live with it the rest of your life. It helps, but it’s not necessary.
The big overriding, life changing question from which everything springs forth for me was when I quit asking myself.
“What is the meaning of my life” and started asking “what brings meaning to my life?”
It has transformed me and my life, for that I’m grateful.
It is what has led me to be a teacher, mentor and helper, to be fulfilled by helping others through difficult times.
Someone did it for it me and I want to be like them.
There are smaller, but no less essential questions too, and they may be a good place to start.
What small thing can I do now that will have a bigger effect later?
Is what I'm doing in this moment getting me closer to where I want to be in 3 months, a year?
Is eating this helping me get to my desired weight and health?
Find your own questions and let them guide you.
The point, which I hope you’ve gotten by now is to start being more conscious, aware and awake in the moments of your life.
It’s essential because your life is a continuous progression of moments.
Keep it small, do it often and pay attention
These three things have been consciously given to you to create the maximum benefit with the minimum of effort.
Do them, they will transform your life.